Sometimes it's so easy to get caught up in the busyness of wedding planning that you can forget what is really the purpose of it all. I would say I forget a majority of the time. It's so easy to get wrapped up into all the details, DIY projects, and looking at beautiful weddings on blogs. Every time I get warped up into wedding planning, I always get this little tug. That little tug saying, "What is this really for?" I know that's probably God telling me I know to slow down and prepare for my marriage that will hopefully last for many many years, rather then preparing for a wedding that will only happen for one day.
I've heard from countless people that marriage isn't easy. I used to listen to Dr. Laura and Family Life a lot in college. It was always interesting to hear about relationship advice and hearing testimonies from countless married couples about their struggles. I guess you never really know until you're actually in the waters. Anyways, the reason why I got off tangent (not doing wedding inspiration stuff) is because I came across this beautiful song. It's by The Civil War and it's called, "Poison & Wine." Sometimes I get so sick and tired of those stupid guy gets with a girl at a club blah blah blah or stupid love songs that don't have any meaning in it. It's when you hear a song about real love...love that isn't a feeling but rather a decision to commit to one another regardless of circumstances, pet peeves, our past, family members, differences, and such and such. Now that's beyond beautiful.
Anyways, here's a quote from the female singer about this song....
"Poison & Wine is a musical snapshot about the dichotomy of love - that while it can be the thing that destroys you, it can also be the very same thing that beckons and builds you. JP and I are both married have been for several years now - and we got to talking one day about what a tug and pull our individual relationships can be. The longer you know someone - and the longer you allow someone to know you - the more the light and shadows inside each person become more vivid. This song was our attempt at being as brutally honest about the dangerous and beautiful process of knowing and being known." (-Joy Williams, The Civil Wars).
I've heard from countless people that marriage isn't easy. I used to listen to Dr. Laura and Family Life a lot in college. It was always interesting to hear about relationship advice and hearing testimonies from countless married couples about their struggles. I guess you never really know until you're actually in the waters. Anyways, the reason why I got off tangent (not doing wedding inspiration stuff) is because I came across this beautiful song. It's by The Civil War and it's called, "Poison & Wine." Sometimes I get so sick and tired of those stupid guy gets with a girl at a club blah blah blah or stupid love songs that don't have any meaning in it. It's when you hear a song about real love...love that isn't a feeling but rather a decision to commit to one another regardless of circumstances, pet peeves, our past, family members, differences, and such and such. Now that's beyond beautiful.
Anyways, here's a quote from the female singer about this song....
"Poison & Wine is a musical snapshot about the dichotomy of love - that while it can be the thing that destroys you, it can also be the very same thing that beckons and builds you. JP and I are both married have been for several years now - and we got to talking one day about what a tug and pull our individual relationships can be. The longer you know someone - and the longer you allow someone to know you - the more the light and shadows inside each person become more vivid. This song was our attempt at being as brutally honest about the dangerous and beautiful process of knowing and being known." (-Joy Williams, The Civil Wars).
2 comments:
This is a great post! You have a lot of great wisdom to offer brides and grooms to be as they prepare for marriage (not just the wedding!). And it's so true that love is a commitment, rather than a feeling. I'm not sure if you have done/will be doing any premarital counseling, but in any event, I highly recommend checking out Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts. I thought it was so helpful in preparing for marriage and provoking a lot of meaningful discussions!
Yea we're doing premarital counseling with our pastor and his wife. We're going over Preparing for Marriage. It's a great book and super thorough about every little thing. But I will definitely look into the book you're looking at. I know so many people getting engaged now and that's always something they ask about. Thanks for the suggestion and comment!
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